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成人高等教育本科生畢業(yè)論文題目： 農村學校中的師生關系 學生姓名：舒 勇 學號： 20091070008 系別：數(shù) 學 系 專業(yè)：數(shù)學與應用數(shù)學 學習形式： 函 授 指導教師： 李 敏 起止日期： 2010、92011、5 2011年4月18日農村學校中的師生關系摘 要自從農民的“皇糧國稅”被取消，政府反而予以農民補貼之后，廣大農民朋友關心的問題莫過于教育和醫(yī)療。治病救命與醫(yī)生的關系他們沒有發(fā)言的權利與選擇，教育對多數(shù)農民朋友而言，所產生的直接效果遠遠不及醫(yī)療效果那么直接明顯，但是教育支出卻是相當?shù)拿黠@醒目，因此談到教育問題時，教師就是替罪頭羊。而教師的職業(yè)特點造就天天與學生見面打交道，農民與教師的關系也就自然而然地移交到老師與學生的師生關系上了。本文結合筆者十余年的農村從教的親身經歷和感受，對農村學校的師生關系的現(xiàn)狀、成因及解決途徑進行一些嘗試性探討和實踐。關鍵詞 師生關系；和諧；平等The relationship between teachers and students; Harmony; equality 一、引言隨著人們對教育活動的認識不斷深入，教育即交往逐漸成為一個時髦且深刻的命題1。各種各樣的交往關系影響著教育效果，而師生關系的狀況直接影響著教育的效果，于是師生關系也自然成為現(xiàn)代教育研究一個頗受關注的話題。有這樣一個事實我們必須承認，學生有時候尊重你，愛戴你，在很大程度上不在于你所講的話多么有道理，也不在于你的專業(yè)功底多么深厚，而取決于你與學生之間的師生關系怎樣。正如一位心理咨詢專家所說，“溝通的微妙之處不在于道理，而在于關系2”。如果師生關系不好，即使老師講的話很有道理，學生仍然難以接受。所以，我們首先需要考慮的就是建立一種怎樣的師生關系。二、師生關系的現(xiàn)狀 先來看看一些師生關系的案例：某中學英語課堂上兩名男生打牌，老師發(fā)現(xiàn)予以制止，兩名男生破口大罵英語老師，致使老師羞憤難當，回到辦公室腦溢血死亡。安徽長豐縣雙墩鎮(zhèn)吳店中學的兩名學生在課堂上打架，被曝授課教師楊經貴沒有制止，而是堅持繼續(xù)上課，以致一名學生死亡。 女教師被逼向學生下跪道歉后進精神病院（華西都市報），教師因批評學生挨耳光并被打倒在地（北京晨報）。 小學教師疑因體罰學生被家長要求道歉服毒自殺（中國網(wǎng)） 教師不管、被毆、被辱、被逼瘋甚至被弒的新聞，成為社會關注的焦點，蜇痛了人們的心。同時，也折射出當前中國教育的弊端，功利教育導致師生關系扭曲和變異。 三、扭曲師生關系的成因 1、教師方面當前師德師風很不樂觀，有很多的教師的素質低、對學生不負責任，工具理性在教育界“蔚然成風”，教師把教書作為生存的工具，而學生把接受教育作為參與社會競爭的工具，教師和學生之間，只是金錢關系、利益關系，而不復傳統(tǒng)的師徒關系，“亦師亦父”的師生關系蕩然無存3。隨著經濟社會學的影響日益蔓延，學校不在是象牙塔，不在是獨立于社會的一方凈土，生存的壓力、利益的驅使使得許多教師的師德發(fā)生了質的變化，把教育當做商業(yè)貿易，把學生當做會生金蛋的雞。教書育人的天職在他們的腦海中消失殆盡，追逐利益成了他們的目標，老師成了老板，學生成了他們眼中的顧客。道德的敗壞使得他們不在關心學生的成長，不在重視自己肩上所承擔的歷史使命，無視法律法規(guī)，漠視學生，是師生關系矛盾的主要方面。2、學生方面對學生的身心健康來說，家庭的影響很大。國內外大量研究表明，不良家庭環(huán)境因素容易造成家庭成員的心理行為異常。這些因素主要有：家庭主要成員變動，如父母死亡、父母離異或分居、父母再婚等4；當前學生的家庭教育狀況不容樂觀，農村留守兒童已經成為一大社會問題。家庭是孩子的第一課堂，父母是孩子的第一任老師，而現(xiàn)如今農村留守兒童占農村學校學生的比例在筆者所到過的學校中達到了六成，并且還有上升的勢頭，許多學生對父母的印象也就是過年時的身影和平時偶爾電話中傳出的聲音。家庭教育的缺位使得學生的性格格外偏激，對父母的敢怒不敢言、怨恨都只有往朝夕相處的老師身上發(fā)泄，猶如一只只憤怒的刺猬隨時準備發(fā)射蜇人的刺，惹不得碰不得！以前人們總是常說“窮人的孩子早當家”，懂事，容易教育，那是因為孩子長期在父母身邊，耳濡目染久而久之形成的良性循環(huán)。而如今當老師說起父母的愛的偉大時，學生的臉上有的茫然，有的冷漠，有的甚至還有些許憤怒！在學生的心中，老師是父母的說客、不負責任的開脫者，在與教師的交往過程中，因為對父母的不滿轉嫁到同樣身為大人的老師身上。如，把老師對他們的批評看成是找岔兒；教師的態(tài)度稍微嚴厲一點，就認為是不尊重他們、不民主等等。學生看待某些問題思想有一些偏激是正常現(xiàn)象，因為他們終究是不成熟的孩子，但是長期的父母不在身邊及時疏導、給以正確的引導，造成的后果卻是災難性的！這也是師生關系緊張的又一主要原因。3、教育主管方面當前應試教育體系，注重知識教育，忽視了學生心理健康教育、生命教育，使學生人格不健全，也不珍惜生命。各級教育主管部門對下屬單位、學校的評價唯分是從，年終評價分數(shù)按分數(shù)排名的行為屢禁不止；對個人的評價也是看教學成績，導致老師把分數(shù)看成自己的命根，片面追求分數(shù)，忽視學生的健康成長。錯誤行使教師的教學自主權，對學生管理嚴格、要求嚴格，不但不會讓學生感激，反過來會惹來學生的記恨，家長的指責，由此學生的行為被縱容，無法無天，對教師沒有起碼的尊敬。這是加在師生關系上的一個魔咒，此咒不除，師生關系決難改善！ 4、社會方面 社會因素主要包括政治、經濟、文化教育、社會關系等，這些因素對一個人的生存和發(fā)展起著決定作用5。其中社會生活中的種種不健康的思想、情感和行為，嚴重地毒害著學生的心靈。特別在當前，人與人之間的交往日益廣泛，各種社會傳媒的作用越來越大，生活緊張事件增多，矛盾、沖突、競爭加劇。所有這些現(xiàn)象都會加重學生的心理負擔和內心矛盾，影響學生的身心健康。當前農村中對學生的影響最大的莫過于網(wǎng)吧、游戲廳了，網(wǎng)吧游戲廳的老板唯利是圖，置國家法律于不顧，學生成了他們的主要收入來源，大肆允許未成年人進入其內。對于老師的巡查他們給予放哨、開后門，對于無錢上網(wǎng)的學生他們給予賒賬，甚至放高利貸！利欲熏心使得他們喪失做人的基本準則，最起碼的商業(yè)道德也沒有，絲毫沒有關心下一代的健康成長！，泯滅了作為父母、家長甚至作為人最起碼該盡得教育責任，慫恿學生逃課、打架，和父母、家長、老師作對，長此以往學生對于學習喪失興趣，沉迷游戲娛樂之中，遠離父母、老師，遠離真正關心他們健康成長的人！而政府主管這些的部門睜一只眼閉一只眼，只要經濟繁榮，至于精神文明嗎？不是他們的業(yè)績成就展示的指標，不用他們管的!以前的政府部門還要管收糧，現(xiàn)在不用操那份閑心了。該負的教育責任都還一個勁的往學校推，使得學生一走出校門受到教育的機會為零，對教師的評價也就是:老師拿走了財政收入的多少多少，讓學生耳濡目染的是金錢利益關系，不利于學生的身心健康。四、建立良好師生關系的途徑1、提高師德修養(yǎng)，塑造高尚師德形象。 所謂師德，是指教師和一切教育工作者在從事教育活動中必須遵守的道德規(guī)范和行為準則。師德是教師隊伍建設的根本；教師整體素質的核心；也是良好師生關系建立的助推器。師德興則教育興，教育興則民族興6。胡錦濤同志曾在會見全國優(yōu)秀教師代表時強調：廣大教師和教育工作者要時刻不忘黨和人民的重托；把培養(yǎng)優(yōu)秀人才作為自己的重大責任，要自覺加強道德修養(yǎng)，孜孜不倦地鉆研業(yè)務，不斷提高育人水平；要率先垂范，為人師表，真正成為學生健康成長的引路人。就是說教師應該忠誠黨的教育事業(yè)，熱愛學生、關心學生。教師是管人的人，但管人首先要學會做人，做好人，然后才有資格去教育管理人，正如孔子所說：其身正，不令而行；其身不正，雖令不從。如果不杜絕教師隊伍中的不道德現(xiàn)象，不完善教師的人格形象，塑造學生靈魂又從何談起？所以，教師應不斷提高自身道德修養(yǎng)，樹立高尚的師德形象。首先，要有敬業(yè)愛崗，立志終生植根于教育行業(yè)，專心治學治教，躬耕教壇,孜孜以求，無私奉獻，這是干好教育事業(yè)的思想基礎。其次，樹立牢固的法制觀念，學法講法，以法執(zhí)教，依照教育法、教師法、未成年人保護法的有關要求，履行自身的職責和義務。再次，弘揚敬業(yè)、愛業(yè)、艱苦創(chuàng)業(yè)精神，并用中小學教師職業(yè)道德規(guī)范的標準約束自己，完善自己。最后，把“教書育人”與“教書育己”統(tǒng)一起來，從細小事情抓起，堅持經常，形成習慣，以身立教，為人師表，以自己高尚的人格形象給學生感染和啟迪。學高為師，德高為范，桃李不言，下自成蹊。 2、加強學生的心理健康教育把心理健康教育與生命教育有機結合，和諧學生的心靈。尋找青春期心理健康教育與關愛生命教育的最佳結合點，讓學生真正的珍愛生命，將青春期心理健康教育上升到對生命的敬畏教育，感受生命是至高無上的7。 對青少年進行青春期心理健康教育是素質教育的要求，更是青少年“身”和“心”全面發(fā)展的要求；提升青少年的生活品質，讓他們健康的成長、幸福的生活，是當代教育所要關注和解決的重大問題，也是教育的真正核心所在。作為未成年人教育主陣地的學校，應采用開設心理健康教育課或講座，利用廣播、電視、錄像、黑板報等宣傳工具，針對青少年的心理特點及知識要求，讓青少年從多角度、多場合接受青春期心理健康教育。引導他們正確認識其身心發(fā)展特點，掌握解決問題的方法和技巧。轉變不良行為，和諧自己的心靈，建立良好的人際關系，從而使其順利渡過青春期。通過設立心理咨詢室、建立學生心理健康檔案，使個別青少年的心理疾病得到治療，不斷提高其心理素質。探索學校、家庭、社區(qū)“三位一體”的心理健康教育模式，強化生命教育，打造“平安青春期”工程8。 3 、改革教育制度，促成師生關系和諧。 近二三十年來，經濟領域的市場化風習很快蔓延到學校，大家都處于競爭之中，師生之間又多了一層利害關系，最終導致師生關系利益化甚至市場化，這樣怎能促成師生的和諧呢？學校工作應以學生為中心，老師的責任就是“傳道、授業(yè)、解惑”，老師不是老板，更非警察。老師是知識的承載者、是知識接力中的前一棒，學生是老師知識的傳承者和擴大者9。要根除功利教育，讓師生關系恢復和諧，僅靠教育者和受教育者轉變觀念是做不到的，而必須進行教育制度改革，并同步進行包括戶籍制度、社會福利保障制度在內制度改革，方可有成效。 4 、全社會要為教育創(chuàng)造寬松的心理環(huán)境片面追求升學率是教育界的一種弊病,如今這種“片面追求”卻成了用人單位和時髦宣傳。一些高效益單位的用人、招工條件成了清一色的“大專以上”學歷，這對學生和家長盲目追求高學歷起了推波助瀾的作用10。其實任何單位都應有不同學歷層次的工作人員來各司其職。所以,宣傳媒介也不要過分渲染高學歷的作用,應強化全面素質的要求。總之全社會要為減輕學生過重的心理負擔做點貢獻,要為學生的健康成長創(chuàng)造寬松的心理環(huán)境。首先,各級領導要充分認識在當前改革開放的新形勢下加強學生心理健康教育的必要性和任務的艱巨性。其次,有關行政管理部門要加強文化市場的管理,注意把握大眾宣傳媒體宏揚正氣,抑制邪惡的導向。社會執(zhí)法部門要加大對不法分子的打擊力度,凈化各種社會環(huán)境,消除種種不健康的丑陋現(xiàn)象等負面因素對初中生健康成長的干擾。從而為學生的健康成長創(chuàng)造一個良好的社會文化氛圍,使他們能夠真正地明辨是非,認清主流,達到正確的學習與模仿,學會積極地適應社會和人生,從而安全順利地渡過人生的“危險期”、“轉折期”,獲得身心各方面的健康發(fā)展11。學?？膳c社區(qū)、德育基地聯(lián)合，形成合力，抵制社會不良環(huán)境的影響，盡可能地凈化社會環(huán)境。例如，與派出所聯(lián)合，整治校園周邊的網(wǎng)吧，為學生創(chuàng)設良好的社會環(huán)境，使學生遠離不利于青少年身心健康發(fā)展的網(wǎng)絡環(huán)境，引導學生文明上網(wǎng)，上文明網(wǎng)。學校還可設立法制教育基地，定期對學生進行法制教育，增強他們的法制觀念和抵制不良環(huán)境影響的能力，教育學生要慎重與社會上的人交往等。5、構建新型和諧的師生關系 作為教師和學生在教育教學過程結成的相互關系的師生關系，它的走向是指師生關系的價值取向及其實踐結構的發(fā)展趨勢和方向12。歷史上有兩種主要的師生關系價值取向：一是教師本位的師生關系取向，如傳統(tǒng)“師道尊嚴”思想；二是學生本位的師生關系取向，如民主、平等的理論和要求?，F(xiàn)代教育需要民主、平等，也需要“師道尊嚴”。在新課改形式下，教育需要繼承“師道尊嚴”的合理內核，剔除壓迫、獨裁、體罰等非尊重學生的方式，形成民主、平等式的“師道尊嚴”。 是給學生以發(fā)自內心的真摯的愛，才能真正的了解學生，也才能愛學生所愛、想學生所想、急學生所急，把學生的憂慮當自己的憂慮。一旦當學生感悟到老師真誠地熱愛他時，就會激起他們心靈的火花，把教師當做最可信賴的人，并毫無保留地將心靈的大門向老師敞開，告訴你在他們的內心深處的秘密13。 教師熱愛學生，關心是起點，也是建立良好師生關系的基礎。這就要求我們像關心自己的孩子一樣去關心他們的學習、生活；像愛護自己的眼睛一樣愛護學生。不管是優(yōu)等生、中等生、潛能生都要一視同仁，尤其是潛能生，更要給予更多的關心和鼓勵。當學生犯了錯誤，感到內疚的時候，你能給以語重心長、慈母般的勸慰。如果抓住了這些有利的教學時機，只要幾句話，幾分鐘就能產生巨大的心靈感應，引起強烈的情感共鳴，收到“心又靈犀一點通”的藝術效果。 必須尊重和信任每一位學生，關鍵的工作是培養(yǎng)和愛護學生的自尊心，睜大眼睛發(fā)現(xiàn)學生的每一處優(yōu)點，正確對待處理學生的每一處錯誤，決不能態(tài)度生硬，而更應注意批評的技巧，在教育的整個過程中，自始至終堅持對學生保持尊重的態(tài)度：尊重學生的人格；尊重學生的情感；尊重學生的個性；有禮貌地對待他們，只有這樣，學生才會向你敞開心扉。 教師對學生的愛還應充分體現(xiàn)出嚴格要求。嚴格要求是和藹可親、關心更為深刻的愛，它將為我們合格地、高質量地培養(yǎng)人才奠定基礎。如果缺乏嚴格要求，學生反而會叛逆，往往會適得其反，事倍功半14。我們應根據(jù)學生的年齡特征、性格特征，寬容待人，在具體的教育實踐中創(chuàng)造條件與他們達到心理相容?？傊?，新型的師生關系應當是在”以人為本”的思想指導下，建立在融融的師愛氛圍中，建立在教師高尚的人格修養(yǎng)前提下，建立在民主平等基礎上的15。當然，如何建立新型的師生關系，單靠這片言只語是無法詳盡的，只能靠著一顆對教育對學生真摯的心在實踐中慢慢探索、體會。參考文獻1袁振國主編：當代教育學，教育科學出版社1999年8月版。2金一鳴主編：教育社會學，江蘇教育出版社2000年10月版。3陳洪慶杜宇主編：新時期班主任工作指南，陜西大學出版社2007年2月版4余永德主編：農村教育論，人民教育出版社2000年1月版。5馮增俊主編：教育人類學江蘇教育出版社2001年2月版。6葉小媚劉國平主編：中國師德手冊，中央文獻出版社2008年10月版。7鞠文燦主編：未成年人思想道德建設新問題與對策，華東師范大學出版社2005年1月版。8謝德民主編：論學習，人民出版社1992年6月版。9李鎮(zhèn)西主編：做最好的老師，華夏新視界教育系列文化發(fā)展有限公司出版。10申亞權張守臣著：教育測量學哈爾濱出版社1996年7月版11付道春主編：情境教育學，黑龍江教育出版社1997年6月版12王鼎宏著：師論，南京大學出版社2001年月版。13孔凡哲主編：新課程理念下的創(chuàng)新教學設計，東北師范大學出版社2005年2月版。14李鳳榮主編：新時期班主任工作難題解決經典案例，陜西大學出版社2007年2月版。15彭劍飛馮周卓主編初中數(shù)學心育藝術，湖南人民出版社2004年7月版。致謝：本文是在李敏老師的精心指導下完成的。李老師嚴肅的科學態(tài)度，嚴謹?shù)闹螌W精神，精益求精的工作作風，深深地感染和激勵著我，在此衷心地感謝李老師。請您刪除一下內容，O(_)O謝謝！Many people have the same mixed feelings when planning a trip during Golden Week. With heaps of time, the seven-day Chinese請您刪除一下內容，O(_)O謝謝！National Day holiday could be the best occasion to enjoy a destination. However, it can also be the easiest way to ruin how you feel about a place and you may become more fatigued after the holiday, due to battling the large crowds. During peak season, a dream about a place can turn to nightmare without careful planning, especially if you travel with children and older people. As most Chinese people will take the holiday to visit domestic tourist destinations, crowds and busy traffic are inevitable at most places. Also to be expected are increasing transport and accommodation prices, with the possibility that there will be no rooms available. It is also common that youllwait in the line for one hour to get a ticket, and another two hours at the site, to only see a tiny bit of the place due to the crowds. Last year, 428 million tourists traveled in China over the week-long holiday in October. Traveling during this period is a matter that needs thorough preparation. If you are short on time to plan the upcoming Golden Week it may not be a bad idea to avoid some of the most crowded places for now. There is always a place so fascinating that everyone yearns for. Arxan is a place like this. The beauty of Arxan is everlasting regardless of the changing of four seasons. Bestowed by nature, its spectacular seasonal landscape and mountains are just beyond word. Arxan is a crucial destination for the recommended travelling route, China Inner Mongolia Arxan Hailar Manzhouli. It is also the joint of the four prairies across the Sino-Mongolian border, where people gravitate towards the exotic atmosphere mixed with Chinese, Russian, and Mongolia elements. As a historic site for the Yitian Battle, Arxan still embodies the spirit of Genghis Khan. Walking into Arxan, you will be amazed by a kaleidoscope of gorgeous colors all the year round - the Spring azaleas blooming red in the snow, the Summer sea wavering blue in the breeze, the Autumn leaves painted in yellow covering volcanic traces, and the Winter woods shining white on the vast alpine snowscape. Hinggan League Arxan city is situated in the far eastern area of Inner Mongolia Autonomous Region. Its full name Haren Arxan means hot holy water in the Mongolian language. Arxan is a tourism city in the northern frontier with a blend of large forest, grand prairies, vast snowfield, heaven lake cluster, thermium, as well as volcanic cluster. It is a rare and unique ecotourism base filled with healthy sunshine, clean air and unspoiled green. Nestled close to the countrys largest virgin forest, and known for its spring and ecological environment, Arxan is marveled at by many tourists as the purest land on earth. You cannot miss out the Autumn of Arxan. It is definitely the best with brightly-colored scenery full of emotions. Autumn in the northern part of the country comes earlier than the South. A September rain followed by the footprints of Autumn brings more colors to the once emerald green mountain and blooming grassland. Shutterbugs flock to see for themselves the marvel of splendid colors around the mountains and waters, many of whom have travel a long distance and even camp here only to capture a moment of the nature wonder. The silver birch turns golden, while the larch is still proudly green. You will find yourself drowned in the intoxicating red of the wild fruits as well as the glamour of flowers in full blown. And your heart will be lingering on the woods as its time for the wild fruits to ripe. The picturesque Arxan in Autumn is indeed a fairyland only exists in a dream that satisfies all your fantasies. If itrains heavily on Saturday night, some elderly Chinese will say it is because Zhinu, or the Weaving Maid, is crying on the day she met her husband Niulang, or the Cowherd, on the Milky Way. Most Chinese remember being told this romantic tragedy when they were children on Qixi, or the Seventh Night Festival, which falls on the seventh day of the seventh lunar month, which is usually in early August. This year it falls on Saturday, August 2. Folklore Story As the story goes, once there was a cowherd, Niulang, who lived with his elder brother and sister-in-law. But she disliked and abused him, and the boy was forced to leave home with only an old cow for company. The cow, however, was a former god who had violated imperial rules and was sent to earth in bovine form. One day the cow led Niulang to a lake where fairies took a bath on earth. Among them was Zhinu, the most beautiful fairy and a skilled seamstress. The two fell in love at first sight and were soon married. They had a son and daughter and their happy life was held up as an example for hundreds of years in China. Yet in the eyes of the Jade Emperor, the Supreme Deity in Taoism, marriage between a mortal and fairy was strictly forbidden. He ordered the heaven troop to catch Zhinu back. Niulang grew desperate when he discovered Zhinu had been taken back to heaven. Driven by Niulangs misery, the cow told him to turn its hide into a pair of shoes after it died. The magic shoes whisked Niulang, who carried his two children in baskets strung from a shoulder pole, off on a chase after the empress. The pursuit enraged the empress, who took her hairpin and slashed it across the sky creating the Milky Way which separated husband from wife. But all was not lost as magpies, moved by their love and devotion, formed a bridge across the Milky Way to reunite the family. Even the Jade Emperor was touched, and allowed Niulang and Zhinu to meet once a year on the seventh night of the seventh month. This is how Qixi came to be. The festival can be traced back to the Han Dynasty (206 BC-AD 220). Traditionally, people would look up at the sky and find a bright star in the constellation Aquila as well as the star Vega, which are identified as Niulang and Zhinu. The two stars shine on opposite sides of the Milky Way. Customs In bygone days, Qixi was not only a special day for lovers, but also for girls. It is also known as the Begging for Skills Festival or Daughters Festival. In this day, girls will throw a sewing needle into a bowl full of water on the night of Qixi as a test of embroidery skills. If the needle floats on top of the water instead of sinking, it proves the girl is a skilled embroiders. Single women also pray for finding a good husband in the future. And the newly married women pray to become pregnant quickly. Tradition transformed The love story of Niulang and Zhinu, and the Qixi Festival have been handed down for generations. Yet these ancient traditions and customs are slowly dying out. Many modern Chinese, particularly youngsters, seem to know more about St Valentines Day on February 14, characterized by bouquets of roses, chocolates and romantic candlelight dinners, than they do about their home-grown day for lovers. Even Qixi is nowadays referred to as the Chinese Valentines Day. More and more young Chinese people begin to celebrate this day in a very similar way as that in western countries. Fewer people than ever will gaze at the heavens on Saturday to pick out the two stars shining bright on either side of the Milky Way, that is, if people even know on which day Qixi falls. There are ready reminders dotted about, in the form of big ads saying Sales on Chinese Valentines Day! in shops, hotels and restaurants. But few young women will mark the festival with their boyfriends, or take part in traditional activities to pray for cleverness. A large-scale of exhibition on the Silk Road opened to the public in the National Museum on Thursday. The exhibition displays more than 400 treasures from Shaanxi province, Gansu province and 14 other regions. It is largest scale exhibition that shows the history of the Silk Road in recent years. AsAPECis going on in Beijing, the exhibit aims to show the world this brilliant section of history. The Silk Road is a series of trade and cultural transmission routes that were central to cultural interaction through regions of the Asian continent. It connected the West and East by linking traders, merchants, pilgrims, monks, soldiers, nomads, and urban dwellers from China and India to the Mediterranean Sea during various periods of time. I met my dear hubby in 2009 the second year I was in my school and it was the first year when he came here. We became colleagues. And there was nothing special happening during that year. He was just a kind and humble brother graduated from the same college as me. But we did not know each other till he became my colleague and his office desk was just in front of me. There was only a glass between us. So actually we could see each other when we both look up. But it is not the main reason that really draws us close. How we become close to each other was something seems quite natural. We went out to play badminton with other colleagues and we sometimes chatted for a while. He is a man of few words but somehow sometimes will say something really humorous. Then one day, to my great surprise, I found a pot of beautiful flower on my desk. It was just the flower I had talked about with my colleague the other day, and I thought it was her who put the flower there. But the truth is not. It was the humble guy sitting in front of me. He just simply said ,”well, I caught sight of this flower and thought that its beautiful and you may like it”. I wonder why I was moved because of these simple words and present. Maybe it is the sincerity and the true self that impress me. I thanked him and some colleagues walked past my desk would appreciate the beautiful flower and they noticed that something romance happened there. Then later on, there were some little surprises once in a while. Once, there was something wrong with my drawer and I had complained about it unconsciously. And he fixed it for me. Then the other day, he placed several pink diamond roses beside the flower with a piece of paper saying” I love you more than I can say! Diamond stands for marriage, rose stand for love. I hope you are mine, become my wife. You are the only girl who I really want to spend the rest of my life to stand by.” Although there were some grammar errors but I got what he meant. He meant so clear and so direct. And actually, I accepted him some days earlier. I was just waiting for him to break the ice. So finally, the common interests and the common understanding brought us together. Some people say the relationship and the feeling will change after getting hitched. You will find that love is no longer strong and there is always lack of passion and whats worse you may find out many bad habits of your partner, which never appear when you are first in love before the marriage. It seems that m